September 17, 2007
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Love…
I never realized how self-centered I was until I got involved in a serious relationship. I always thought I was giving and generous and focused on the needs of others. However, when I fell in love and let my guard down I discovered that I wasn’t as nice as I thought I was. It’s hard to explain but it’s as if the other person reflected the good in me but also made the bad come out. I realized that letting someone in that close to see you for who you really are, including your flaws, wasn’t easy. But I was fortunate because the other person loved me for the good and bad. The other person made me want to be a better woman and was worth the effort.
Very slowly and sometimes painfully, I came to understand the meaning of compromise. And as cheesy as this sounds I learned that love can overcome a million things.
When you really love someone I believe you put the other person’s interests before your own. I believe that even though you may have to sacrifice something, be it time, comfort or money, you would willingly do it because you want the person you love to be happy, loved, successful- whatever it may be. I believe that sacrificial, unconditional love isn’t natural between two people, except maybe for a parent and child, but that with practice, patience and time it happens.
I know I am loved but I think I’ve only begun to really love those around me. I believe now is the time to put all that I’ve learned to practice…
Comments (6)
RYC – You are a very lovely person, and it was wonderful meeting you today. Thanks for your hospitality and generosity. Now I’m thinking I can’t wait to have a working camera again so I can show off my new Xanga.com T-shirt.
Meanwhile, I love the introspective voice of this entry. And, I do agree with your observations. Being with someone who is a lot younger than me has taught me AWHOLELOT about compromise… and patience. And, that no matter the differences and challenges, true love can help overcome, and put things into better perspective.
XIN
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A good day for a post about love,it was my wedding day 15 yrs ago.
that’s pretty deep.
I don’t really believe in compromise. Regardless, I liked the honesty of your entry. It struck a cord. I think what I’ve been doing lately is letting myself be me fully and seeing what comes up. My self doubt and critical sides come up about how I should be afraid of being a certain way. I think that when I let it all come up — me being me, the criticisms — and in the end still stand by myself, my love for myself grows. I feel expanded like I can tolerate things that I had been afraid to tolerate or was taught weren’t tolerable. I also then in turn can give this unconditional love to another. Though a relationship is far off in the distance future and I think it’s primarily because I am an idealist — I want the type of love that is genuine and what you read about or dream about or know is true in your heart.
But I am glad you are loved. I very much appreciated this blog. Sorry about the footprints I was checking out the blogs you visit. Those are interesting. I like the food ones. mmmm.
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